How To Learn Languages Like A Child (Yes It Is Possible)

I reached myself the same conclusions about language learning. I’m in the process of learning my third language - French - as I moved contries for a second time (first time was to the UK). I’m Bulgarian.
The problem with this method is that it takes years (more than 10) of talking 16 hours a day for children to learn to speak like native adults. And almost noone can’t afford that.

Wow I have been thinking about this lately. My daughter is almost 4 and her language skills snowballed so fast over the past year. I am a busy guy , like every one else and have a goal of speaking Italian . I wondered if I could learn like a child... so effortlessly.

Wow I have been thinking about this lately. My daughter is almost 4 and her language skills snowballed so fast over the past year. I am a busy guy , like every one else and have a goal of speaking Italian . I wondered if I could learn like a child... so effortlessly.

I am surrounded by many French children in my day job, I’ve often wondered if I could learn like a child, as I still am one. My brother, who has a house in France, said something interesting recently, when learning French, ‘DON’T LEARN THE TRANSLATION’. That made so much sense, see the ‘voiture’ and see that object and not the word ‘car’. Just a basic example but yes, it all makes sense.

I have no doubt that an adult could learn a language in the same was as a child can. For example, if say a Chinese speaking adult joined your family when your son was born and was treated by you exactly the same as your son and had all the same interactions that you and your son have, the Chinese adult would no doubt be at least at the same stage as your son in his language development.
It would of course take a great commitment by the adult to be treated like a child for say 3 or 4 years, but surely he would be fluent in the language at the end without ever picking up a book.

Dear Donovan, I wasn’t clear enough in my comments, so I will elaborate for the sake of clarity. There are two issues which your article raises that I find problematic; firstly, you conflate ‘listening and repeating’ with natural language acquisition by first language acquirers. Where is the CONTEXT? Children don’t press play on a sound clip...pause...and then repeat. Their setting is a natural setting, with natural relationships, in a comprehensible environment. And when they do start repeating sentences it is after having internalised 1,000s of hours of engagement which is compelling and comprehensible - as Kris highlighted in the comments above - the speech is just as much a result of learning than a cause. In order to call ‘listen and repeat’ akin to natural acquisition one would first have to be placed in an environment where utterances have a background context. Furthermore, an adult- being adult- is conscious that playing a sound clip and repeating it is decontextualised and hence lacks authenticity...he or she cannot pretend to be ignorant of this. I think this explains, in part, why an experienced language learner like Vladimir Skutlety stated that when learning Chinese, eventually, the only thing which worked for spoken fluency was to learn a given expression in a highly specific CONTEXT - and after experiencing this authentic content his brain kind of accepted this context as genuine and he formed a lasting connection with that expression. I’m not suggesting that ‘listening and repeating’ is not valuable - it is! I’m suggesting that it is a part of a much larger picture of acquisition for a L1 child, and, moreover, it is not a ‘practice’ for a child in the way it is for an L2 adult learner. For an adult, it lacks authenticity-at some level- and hence has a demotivating artificiality to it. Even if you master a given phrase, it means nothing until you can use it in real conversation. Furthermore, natural acquisition cannot be 100% mimicry, because the mimicry in a ‘natural’ context is contingent not just on copying, but rather on engagement and communication- which may or may not be verbal.. If you simply listen and repeat, who is you audience and what is your connection to the speaker? What’s natural about that?
Secondly, even if ’mimicry’ is the ‘best’ approach to L2 acquisition, in practice, it is useless if some adult learners find that approach demotivating or frustrating and uninspiring. After all, adult are adults. As John Pasden notes:
“ It’s not that you can’t learn like a child, it’s that you won’t. You’re not willing to. Not because you aren’t committed, or aren’t smart enough, but because you’re an adult with a little bit of self-respect. And you get frustrated.” It is in light of these points- and many more could be added- that I meant that the approach you were arguing for could be viewed as “artificially acting childish”. Artificial, because it is so decontextualised, and frustrating because you are not a child and cannot pretend to have the same learning approach. I hope this, however imperfectly, clarifies my comment.

Yes, there are some parallels between children and adult learners. However, adults already know and inhabit a language - are shaped by a language. Furthermore, they ARE adults, so artificially acting childish would seem to be a poor long term solution for adults.

> “artificially acting childish”

Never said ‘act childish’. If that’s what you gleaned from the points I made then you didn’t read it properly. I was referring to the way children naturally absorb and acquire whole lexical chunks without the need to question *why*. Adults are perfectly capable of learning the same way WITH the added benefit of the language and cognitive abilities they already possess.

Hi Donovan,

First of all, congratulations, and the best to you and your growing family!

I think you are on the right track in many ways about adults being able to learn languages like children do, for example being able to pick up grammar implicitly through exposure and context.

However, I think you’ve made the common mistake of looking at what some children do and imposing an adult conception of things on it, without looking enough at what’s happening “behind the scenes” for the child, which is very different from what adults typically do and experience.

I think children’s mimicry of language like what you’ve observed with your son is different from the kind of “listen and repeat” that adults practice in two critical ways: 1) The child is usually doing it having had a lot of experience listening to the language already, and 2) even when they do it without this experience, they are doing it in a way that is unforced, unself-conscious, and largely unconscious of language to the degree that adults are.

Also, the child’s repeating is probably an effect or result of language acquisition rather than a cause—it emerges as a result of a lot of input and experience.

In these ways what you’re doing with a language like Thai is not what your son is doing with English. That’s not to say that what you’re doing can’t be effective for things like improving pronunciation in the target language, if done carefully and diligently, but I doubt whether it’s something the average language learner will or can do consistently.

I think there’s a way that could be easier and more effective for the average person, and which would be more truly learning a language like a child. Essentially it’s about providing for adults abundant opportunities for compelling comprehensible input and experience with languages, through which they can pick up languages through listening without consciously focusing on the language itself.

I’ve written about this in more detail on my blog at:
https://beyondlanguagelearning.com/2019/01/14/how-young-childrens-mimicry-of-language-is-very-different-from-adult-learners-listen-and-repeat/

No adults cant learn a language like a child. Check out you tube - Rick Beato - “why you can not learn perfect pitch”.
Also check out (google) the LSD experiments and how it affects learning sounds.

Hi Donovan,

Speaking of a Greek update, I am curious about how you maintain your ancient languages? In college, I studied Attic Greek and Quichua. Attic Greek was taught completely as grammar and Quichua was taught by speaking and listening. I’m sure you can guess which one I still remember years later. I am having to re-learn Ancient Greek (going with Koine this time) and am determined to incorporate more listening and speaking. How do you retain the ancient languages you have acquired? Thanks!

Looking forward to seeing your update on Greek. I want to see what foreigners who learn my native also think!

Looking forward to the Greek update!

Hi Donovan,
I also have a 20-month old son, and we are doing a multilingual experiment with 3 languages (Romanian mother, Canadian father, living in Turkey). It is interesting to see him already starting to sort out all 3 in his mind, although they are not all 3 equally strong.

While I agree largely with your post, I have one remark: the advantage that a child has over an adult is a 24/7 immersion environment with adults who are adjusting their language to suit the baby’s needs and level.

An adult cannot possibly recreate that environment for themselves, can they? I believe in natural language learning and grammar assimilation, but in order for it to work best, does it not need literally thousands of hours of input in an intense immersion environment over several years?

I learned Romanian largely naturally. I became conversationally fluent without ever picking up a grammar book. But eventually I had to fill in the gaps with some explicit grammar study, because I lacked that 24/7 immersion environment. I don’t know how an adult can avoid that.

What do you think?

Hi Tim,

Adults actually have it easier for a number of reasons:

1) We are **intentionally** learning languages. Children are not. For kids, languages are purely a means to achieve whatever they’re doing.

2) Adults are able to be resourceful. If I need to communicate and don’t know how to, I am able to look something up. Kids don’t have a clue what they’re lacking or how to go about looking it up.

3) We’re able to focus and make better use of our time. As you say, a child has 24/7 exposure but much of that exposure is not necessarily effective language time. Something that you or I could pick up quickly in a short period might take a child many months of scant exposure.

Adult native speakers also adjust speech for us as learners. It’s a natural thing to have people automatically adjust their language to suit whoever they’re speaking to. It might be ‘baby language’ but it is adjusted to something we can understand usually.

> “does it not need literally thousands of hours of input in an intense immersion environment over several years?”

Simple answer: yes. It takes many years and thousands of hours of input for an adult to learn a foreign language properly. No way around that.